my child was strapped in a chair when i collected her from the creche!!!?
hi – just wondering what you make of this.
today i collected my daughter, who just turned 2. when i knocked on the door i was let in. i was looking around for my daughter and the minder was quiet for a few seconds and then pointed on the floor.
My daughter was strapped into one of those bouncer chairs that babies are kept in. When i asked the girl why my daughter was strapped in to a babies chair i was told it was because her and a another boy (younger than her) were fighting and she bit him really hard – so she just put her there a few seconds before i knocked to tend to the little boy that was crying and to check if his hand was OK.
What do you think – seriously – i know my daughter was wrong bitting – but was it a bit extreme strapping her in like that so she couldnt move? Any child minder’s out there that think this is ok and normal, because now i am wondering if they do this all of the time with her.
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my son is 19 months old and a few eeks ago this happened to me when i arrived to pick him up from daycare. He had been rough with some of the younger kids and wheni got there he was strapped into a little chair and was sitting quietly with one of the girls. At first i was upset that they would do this to him. i want him to be happy playing when iget there as i’m sure you do. I talked the woman who runs the creche and she knew it would be upsetting to see him unable to play. We decided it was time he was spending more time with older children and in an environment with more stimulation for him and his age group. On reflection of the whole thing, i don’t think its that bad for them to be seperated for a few minutes (as long as that’s all it is) to teach them its naughty to hit/fight/bite – whatever. as long as your creche isn’t making a habit of it and your daughter is otherwise happy to be there, i wouldn’t let it worry you. there’s worse punishments than a inute in a chair being quiet. aybe a little calm down is what she needed. I hope i’ve helped.
Thats totally extreme! Shes a toddler, they dont know right from wrong yet! I would definitly look into a new creche, daycare, or ask your mom or close friend to watch her. Sometimes its better to go to daycares at someones house!
Well it’s like putting the baby in time out for doing something wrong. I don’t see anything bad about it.
I would seriously look into this. I don’t think that restricting a child’s freedom like that is appropriate. I’d say from her reaction with being quiet and then pointing to your daughter she realized that what she did was wrong. I’d look into having someone else watch your daughter.
i have to strap my son into his carseat when hes throwing a fit because he kicks hits and bites and thats the only way to keep him off me. but it is wrong for someone else besides you to do that to your child. if the sitter cant handle it find a new one. your not paying her to strap up your kid.
doesnt sound like someone i would leave with her again….. that was done as a punnishment…. that is not proper!!! at 2 years of age she should be put in time out…. it’s not like the little boy had to be "protected" by strapping your child into a chair made for 6 month olds…
You need to find another babysitter….
I think they need to rethink their time out methods. Strapping a larger child into a bouncer isn’t safe; they can manage to tip themselves over and get moving, and this could pose a hazard. It could also break under them.
If the creche needs a safe time out area, then they should invest in a play yard or similar item with fixed, not collapsible sides.
I would not have been impressed with that behaviour at all, and as I’m guessing you’re in the UK, perhaps a chat with OFSTED would be in order to see if that’s within their guidelines for behaviour management.
That’s not correct, you should report her!! Its a toddler for Christ sake!!
Don’t let them get away with it, those people shouldn’t be left to hurt other toddlers.
Find someone else to care for her ASAP!
If it were for any continued length of time, I’d be concerned. But in all truth, I think that perhaps the minder in this situation did the right thing, by putting your daughter in a place where she knew she’d be safe, while she was busy dealing with the child who had been bitten. It’s not as if your daughter was tied to a garbage can, or locked outside in the parking lot, and it’s not as if she was there for very long at all (at least according to the child minder).
You might look for another minder who has better capability of monitoring multiple children, but in all honesty, I don’t see that she did anything that would cause your daughter any harm.
How does your daughter react when you drop her off? Is she upset about being left there? If so, there may be a problem. Otherwise, maybe it was just like a time out. But I’d still talk to them and let them know that that’s not an appropriate means of discipline. Do they have credentials?
well i do think that she have not done that but if you think she was in the wrong then go to mangment at the creche
Honestly, it doesn’t sound that bad to me if, and I do mean if, she just put her in there so that she could tend to the bitten boy.
It is a hard call, because when two toddlers fight – you HAVE to get them apart. Obviously, the injured child needs the immediate attention.
Also, a time out is appropriate for a two year old for biting – and it kind of sounds like that was what this was. A controlled time out while attending to an injury.
I would completely understand caution in this situation though – it sounds like you are slightly leery of your provider, otherwise, you probably wouldn’t be questioning this incident. Keep an eye/ ear out for anything else you think might be out of the ordinary, with your child or another. A secluded event like this is nothing to worry about, but if it happens frequently, there is more than likely a problem that should be addressed.
When I worked at an in-home daycare, we did time outs but they were very infrequent – we might have had the need once a month if that, and it was usually with a newer child who didn’t understand the rules yet and was testing boundaries. I probably would have put your daughter in a chair though – not a bouncy seat.
It’s just like putting her in timeout. If you’re worried that this is happening a lot, show up unexpected and see what’s going on.
I agree with Amber…..since the minder was quiet and then just pointed…..she KNOWS what she did is wrong and she was caught. I personally would find an new minder and have a long talk with her supervisor if she has one. Think about the time it took to strap her into that thing…..while the boy was crying?? Seperate them and set her aside with a firm NO and then pick up the boy!
get rid of the minder!!!!! this is way to extreme. how do you know that she isn’t lying. if i were you i would definitely ask the minder of any other situations like that have happened. tell the minder that if she has to strap a kid so that she cannot move just so that she can tend to another she isn’t ready to babysit more than one kid at a time. only let your daughter over there when you are sure that there are no other kids who are going to be there. drop by unexpectedly to pick her up because you finished what you were doing early. if anything like that happens again get rid of her and tell all the people you know who need a minder not to go to her!!!!
she is to young for a time out to be of any help. She bit him fora reason, and not being able to express her self could bepart of it. I would watch this behavior, and change daycare. I would ask them what they do to handle this type of behavior. Good luck! Telling a child this young to use her words and not bite our friends would work much better. Ask her how it would make her feel if it happened to her and yes at 2 you can talk to your child and have them understand.
From your question I gather that she put her there to keep her in one spot while she tended to the othe kid, not a time out like others are thinking? If she’s the only one watching the kids, I can see her point. She can’t just leave the hurt, crying kid alone so she can chase after your daughter. If your daughter wouldn’t stay put or cooperate, she probably just was trying to keep her in one spot so she could focus her attention on the hurt child. Watching toddlers is hard and you can’t always pay full attention to both, especially if they’re both crying or being difficult. If she’d have let your daughter run around while she cared for the hurt boy and your daughter got hurt, you’d have probably given the sitter grief that, too. She was only doing what she thought was best to make sure you kid wasn’t getting into any trouble or harm while she took care of the other one. It did her no harm and it’s better than her running around unsupervised while the sitter’s tending to the other one and getting hurt.
NO NO NO NO NO not OK. that’s what you tell your girl and her caregiver. Teach her not to bit don’t just lock her up. shes 2 she don’t get it right now. But keep telling her not to bit and she will understand.
Yeah, first those chairs have a weight limit, which I know for a fact that a healthy 2 year old is well over. Not to mention the safety regulations say that a child that can sit up on their own and move about shouldn’t be strapped in. I would find out the brand and all the manufacturer and ask them for a manual and then show her.
I had to do this with the daycare my daughter goes to as well as tell them when I no longer wanted my child in those things.
While it is not the method I would have taken…it does not sound THAT extreme to me.
The problem I see here is your daughter abusing other kids.
As long as the child care worker did not hit or physically abuse her in any way…then I don’t see what the big problem is. Sounds like she got what she deserved.
Yikes! I don’t think many of the people who answered here have kids in daycare. There is a reason why the toddler room is nicknamed the "biting" and "hitting" room!
At that age they are non-verbal and frustrated! While it’s not okay to bite – it happens. My child is 1 and 1/2 and he has bitten me (although not other kids YET) but he did get bitten about a month ago. The daycare provider just supervises him more now, and of course he’s told "no". But the punishment fits the crime.
The dayhome provider that I had before this did the same thing with my son but in a high chair – and his high chair also "tipped over" when he was one. She also did time outs in his crib when he was 1! This is a big "no-no"
Trust your gut, find a new daycare, your child will thank you.
Its there time out rule by the sounds of it. If you are not comfortable with then speak up.