My brother has been stealing things for a long time.
The first instance I can recall was that I had a coin jar in my room, and I’d put a couple dollar coins in it. I noticed one day that they were all gone, so I asked my parents to confront him about it. He admitted to taking "about ," so my mom made him pay me , though I was sure there had been more in there. (seems odd to me to side with the thief on the amount stolen)
Sometime after that, my dad caught him coming out of my father’s room carrying his wallet, basically caught red handed here.
Last year while I was at college, he was caught shoplifting from a store, he took a pack of gum or something, and the friend he was with took a sip of a drink then put it back on the shelf. He was caught by the camera’s, and they called our parents and let him off with a warning.
Last week, he took a blank roll of receipts from the grocery store, because "it was laying under the counter. its just a piece of paper." My parents found out and confronted him, and his argument was "its just a piece of paper, it was okay to take it." He seems to think that what he did was okay. My father insisted that he take it back to the store manager, and tell him that he took it, figuring that would make an impression when the manager told him the implications of what he’d done. Instead, my mom took him to the store, and stood at a distance while he handed it to a cashier, really not hammering in the point at all.
The most recent incident happened yesterday. We went on a short family trip in my dad’s van. My dad keeps a couple dollars under his car visor, in case he needs to pay off something small (like bridge toll). Yesterday, he had under there. Our car wasn’t locking, so we took all the valuables out of the car (including the ) temporarily. When we were getting ready to drive back home, my dad got out everything, and put it on my brother’s seat while they put everything back in its place. Later that night, I noticed that there were only now in the visor. I confronted him, and he admitted to taking it.
I’ve tried getting my parents to do something, but they seem to think nothing can be done. He’s almost 18, and I really think he should be more grown up than this.
I don’t know what to do. My parents tell me to stay out of it, but they don’t punish him, and he steals from me, so I don’t particularly want to stay out of it as I am losing money and feel unsafe in my own house.
What really bothers me is that he is about to get his eagle scout rank. As an eagle scout myself, I know that a scout should be "trustworthy and loyal." An eagle scout should be someone you can trust. I am feeling conflicted in that I do not think he should make eagle scout if this is how he acts, but he’s my brother, should I let it slide?
I’m looking for any advice on how to deal with this, and also what to do about the eagle scout rank.
Thank you
My mom says that me having a problem with his stealing is just "sibling rivalry."
My problem is that these are just the times that he’s been caught. If he’s been caught a couple times, I feel pretty sure that he hasn’t been caught other times.